About 10 years ago, dizzyguy and I decided we’d try swinging. I was the one who brought it up and he was receptive to the idea right away. This was before we were married but we had been together for many years and owned a home together so, it was like we were married, sans the paperwork. I felt like we had the kind of solid relationship that could handle the intricacies of the lifestyle.
We created a profile on one of those swinging websites and were soon chatting with other couples and exchanging pictures. The first couple we met were both attractive professionals. We had a light dinner and drinks, then went to a hotel room. I was so incredibly nervous. It was a pleasant experience, even though the guy sweated profusely. Afterward we both decided it was something we’d like to keep doing. We met with that couple two more times after that, at our home. It was fun and I had my first experience with another woman.
At the time, we only had a queen size bed in the master and a full size in the guestroom. We all decided to pile onto the queen bed and there really wasn’t enough real estate. But we all managed to do our thing. Then as the other guy was getting up to leave the bed, his still erect penis hit dizzyguy’s foot. He told me about it later that night after they had left and we laughed hysterically. We decided shortly after, that we were both comfortable with separate rooms.
We were a full swap couple… pretty much anything was OK. Our only rule was that we always played together. No sneaking off to meet with anyone behind the others back. One couple we had an ongoing relationship with was comfortable with playing separately. That was cool for them but wasn’t something we felt was right for us.
Both of us enjoyed mostly all our experiences, save one. That was a really awkward situation and the other couple didn’t exactly handle it graciously. The guy couldn’t perform and the girl wanted him to leave the hotel room so just the three of us could play. That didn’t go over too well and we hurriedly got dressed and got out of there. We never met with them again. Through our experiences, I got to satisfy my bicuriosity with several women. I am glad that I was able to explore that aspect of my sexuality within the context of a loving, trusting relationship.
Eventually, we decided that we would stop swinging. We both felt like we had our fun but it was time to quit. I like to reminisce with dizzyguy about our adventures. Probably the biggest surprise was that meeting one couple resulted in dizzyguy getting the great job he has now. Talk about networking.
I think swinging is something that a trusting and open couple can successfully take part in. You have to be very honest with one another and come clean about any and all hang-ups you might have. You have to agree about what you’re comfortable with doing, well before you meet with anyone and both people have to be into it. I know that sounds like a given but we hooked up with one couple where it really seemed like the woman wasn’t all that into it but just sort of tolerated it for her husband’s sake. That’s just not an acceptable thing to demand of your partner.
If we were both truly interested in getting back into the lifestyle, I would have no reservations but it seems we both agreed that it was just time for us to get out of it and focus on one another. We had our experiences and it was time to move on, together.
It’s great that you have shared this with each other and that both of you stepped out of it at the same time. It’s wonderful when a couple is this tuned into each other 🙂
Thanks for sharing!
Rebel xox
We tend to be on the same page for most anything. It’s amazing that I found someone who thinks like I do on so many things.
I know what you mean. My Husband and I are the same 🙂
Rebel xox
What a really good post about your experiences and how you enjoyed yourselves along with some really great advice about the ins and outs of swinging!
~Mia~ xx
Jealousy never came up the entire time we were swinging. But years later after we’d stopped I had a little episode. Strange, huh? It happens.
wonderful post. Though both my and my wife are bi it has not been a lifestyle we have talked about much. maybe one day we will
If you’re both comfortable with it and trust each other completely, I think it can be a wonderful thing to share with each other.
I had my own swinging period and I loved it too. It was fun, sexy and full of surprises but for now it is not part of my life. I agree with you about both wanting to do it, I certainly met couples where only one partner seemed to be enjoying themselves which always seemed to kill the mood to be honest
Mollyxxx
We’ve done some swinging as well, and have encountered the thing where one partner seems to be doing it only for the sake of the other. Not so fun.
I love that he got his job via swinging!
I liked reading this, how good it was for both of you and how much fun you both had – how mutual it was. Really nice to read.
This was a really good read for me. I will only say that I can relate to your experience from a different angle. I think at some point every thing runs it’s course. We need it for personal growth & for a better understanding of ourselves. And who knows if it works out you both can get back into that scene. You do it both together with a positive & trusting attitude. I know couples that “sneak around” not a good ending. Worse is getting “caught” in the middle (’nuff said)
That’s kind of how it was….just ran it’s course.
Jake and I have thorougly enjoyed our swinging journey. Although I have to say dealing with couples who don’t have their shit together so to speak can be very, very tedious. Sometimes it is easier to play with singles.
Amen, about the couples who don’t have their shit together. They are a pain in the ass.
Lovely read; I’ve always been quite open to the idea of swinging. If nothing else, learning and exploring with new people. 🙂
But it’s not something my wife would want to do, so it’s not really a consideration!
Great read, as with so many things being trusting and open with your partner really is the key. It something I am very grateful to have with my husband.
That is exactly the key, trust, communication, and mutual respect. It sounds like you guys did everything right and it’s awesome you’re still going strong after closing your relationship back up!
Great post! Thanks for sharing that!
The idea of an erect penis touching DG’s feet really turned me on. 🙂
Haha, that’s cool. It didn’t do a thing for him though. 😛