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Dec 052013

weVibe4_features“There’s just no way that can work,” dizzyguy said incredulously as he held it, looking puzzled.

“No, really,” I said, “I wear it and you put your penis in there along with it.” He looked at me like I’d lost my mind.  “We’ll just have to try it… for science. OK?”  He was skeptical but always willing to try something new in the bedroom, he agreed.

Dizzyguy and I had a lot of fun testing the We-Vibe 4. We both felt like it added a playful element to our shenanigans. The newest version of We-Vibe’s quintessential couple’s vibrator made even doubtful dizzyguy a believer.

When it arrived, I was so excited to try it but I wouldn’t have my chance to share it with dizzyguy until the evening and I didn’t want to wait. So, I decided to familiarize myself with it beforehand using a dildo. I lubed the whole vibrator with water-based lube and inserted it, adjusting the clitoral arm into position. It felt like it was grabbing on tight to my body but not in an uncomfortable way. I was just surprised at how securely in place it felt. I played around with the remote, going through all the modes. The vibration felt really good but I was pretty sure that the We-Vibe 4 wouldn’t be able to bring me to orgasm. This is mainly because my clit seems to need to be stroked with a vibrator. Just holding a vibrator against it won’t do it. And of course, that’s what the 4 does… it kind of just sits there, hugging against my clit.

Even still, I enjoyed the sensation and felt like it was time to see if I could fit a dildo in there too. I had mostly thicker dildos available at the time and really didn’t want to try to use one of those so, I was relieved when I found my Tantus Revolve. The girth on that one isn’t challenging for me and I figured if I could squeeze that in there, dizzyguy would probably fit, especially since it’s made of rigid aluminum. I pushed the bulbous head of the Revolve against my vagina and right away, I could tell just how much tighter it was going to be with the 4 in there. With plenty of lube and some gentle pushing, it popped right in. It was a tight squeeze but nothing about it was painful or uncomfortable in any way. I proceeded to thrust a bit with the Revolve and I could really feel it pushing the 4 into my G spot. I was enjoying it but just as I suspected, try as I might, I couldn’t have an orgasm. Regardless, I couldn’t wait to try it with dizzyguy.

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That evening we got down to business. I felt totally at ease because I’d already taken the 4 for a test drive but he still seemed a bit apprehensive. Again, I lubed it all up really well and inserted it then lubed up dizzyguy’s penis and told him to go for it. He tentatively pushed the head of his penis against the opening for a moment, commenting on the resistance he felt. I said I was fine and that it wouldn’t hurt me and told him to just go ahead and push it in, as long as it felt comfortable to him. He pushed a little harder and his penis comfortably slipped in and he said it felt really tight but pleasant.

Before we tried it, we’d initially thought that the only way the 4 could possibly stay in place was if dizzyguy just did a little gentle bump and grind motion. I didn’t think he would be able to thrust with a lot of force and speed but to our surprise it stayed put, even when he began to thrust more aggressively. Granted, we didn’t get as rough as I usually like but I think we were both a little hesitant to go really crazy with it, especially on our first try.

The dual vibration felt great and we had fun going through the various modes. I was particularly interested in the Echo mode (vibration alternates between internal and external) because it felt so cool in my hands. It wasn’t quite as spectacular as I’d hoped but it was enjoyable. All the modes were pleasurable but I think we both got the most stimulation from the steady vibration. So after playing around with it for a bit, I set it on steady as he continued thrusting.


Now dizzyguy is not a man of many words and never really describes anything with much enthusiasm or conviction but when I asked him if it he liked it, he said that it did feel good.  I watched him as he came and based on his reaction, it seemed as though the vibration and increased constriction enhanced his orgasm. We both came away from the experience surprised by how well it all went and how much we liked it. Lying there in post coital bliss, we discussed the experience and both agreed that there was absolutely nothing about it we didn’t like and we could see ourselves using the 4 from time to time in the future.

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wevibecompareI haven’t tried any of the previous versions of the We-Vibe but there are a couple of changes that were made to the 4 that are obvious improvements. The previous We-Vibes were made of a glossy silicone like that of the Touch and that silicone has quite a bit of drag and attracts lint worse than any other toy I own. The 4 has been made of a matte silicone that feels velvety soft and there is far less drag. Thankfully, it’s not a lint magnet either. We-Vibe, if you’re listening, make a Touch II using the new matte silicone and keep everything else about it the same.1  I’ll go on record to say that would make the perfect clit vibe (at least for me). Another change that has been made is the insertable arm is flattened whereas, the previous versions had a more rounded arm and the 4 is 30% smaller than the We-Vibe 3.  I can only imagine this makes everything more comfortable for all involved.

When the 4 first arrived, my initial assessment was that the vibration was pretty strong. At least it felt that way in my hands. But in use, it didn’t feel as powerful as I expected. It doesn’t feel as intense as the Salsa/Tango, for example. The vibration is nice and rumbly though and it would be strong enough to get me off, if it weren’t for my finicky clit that demands stroking.


The 4 has 6 modes that consist of 3 levels of steady vibration and 3 patterns. With the remote you can fine tune the wevibe4functionssteady vibration and the patterns by stepping through 10 levels of intensity.  The modes can be changed via the button located on the clitoral arm or with the remote. I don’t think I would have enjoyed it quite as much if it weren’t remote controlled.  There is a motor in both arms but they can’t be independently controlled (hey, there’s an idea).  To turn it off you can either press and hold the button on the clitoral arm for a few seconds or press and hold the bottom button on the remote.

I love the little storage case/charging base and how the 4 sits in there along with the remote. There are no charging contacts on the 4 or the charging base.  Instead, it charges through inductive technology.  This is how I wish all rechargeable toys were made. The charging base comes with a USB cable but a USB to A/C adapter is not included so, you’ll have to pick one up if you’re like me and you don’t like using your laptop to recharge your sex toys. It takes 6 hours (yes, 6) to fully charge and will maintain a charge for several months, continuously diminishing over time. We-Vibe states that a full charge should provide 3 hours of run time. You don’t have to wait until it’s fully drained to put it back on the charger though.  So theoretically, it should always be ready when you are. The remote is water resistant not waterproof so, avoid submerging it (the 4 itself is completely waterproof). It requires a CR2032 battery and one is included. The remote has a range of about 10 feet.

The We-Vibe 4 is non-porous, phthalates free and body safe. You can clean it with antibacterial soap and water or a toy cleaner. A 10% bleach solution can be used to sanitize it. It’s probably best to use water-based lube since some weVibe4_coloursilicone lubes can damage some silicone toys.  For those of you who are sick to death of pink and purple sex toys (I know you’re out there), you’re out of luck. The 4 only comes in those two tired, over used colors but I don’t mind. Color is one of the last things I think about when choosing a sex toy.

I think We-Vibe got everything right with the 4. Admittedly, it could stand to have a bit more power for my liking but it was still stimulating enough for me to enjoy using it.  The biggest surprise to me was how much dizzyguy liked it, especially since he was so skeptical.  We both agree that it’s something we’ll keep in our arsenal. If you can have orgasms by holding a vibrator in place against your clit then I think you’ll really enjoy the We-Vibe 4. It also enhances G-spot stimulation both through the vibration and from the physical pressure applied against it when thrusting and I was impressed by how well it stayed in place. I’m definitely happy with the We-Vibe 4 and I think it’s a great way to add a little something new to your repertoire that both of you can enjoy.


We-Vibe provided the 4 in exchange for my unbiased opinion.


  1. In a perfect world, I would like to see the Touch and Tango redesigned with inductive charging technology.

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  • Heaven

    LOL, love the start to his reaction to if it works or not. Guys for you. Glad he was able to feel it as well.

  • Camryn Jones

    Ooh, it sounds yummy! I can get off from stationary vibrations and the added pressure on my G-spot would feel nice. I just wish it came in the Touch’s teal or any of the Salsa’s colors.

  • InquisitiveClam

    Not to get too personal, but how was dizzyguy’s stamina while you were wearing the We-Vibe 4? My fiancee and I have tried vibrating cock rings, and they certainly feel good, but that’s bad in one important way. My fiancee definitely didn’t last as long while he was wearing a vibrating cock ring.

    • That’s OK, this whole blog is about getting personal. 🙂
      His stamina was unaffected. I noticed no difference in that regard and I just asked him if it made it hard to control and he said, no.

      • InquisitiveClam

        Thanks so much for your reply!

  • Karen B

    Great review! I love the pics and that you really shared your personal experience with the toy. That is what makes your reviews so great 🙂 I sure hope I win this toy. I would love to try it out with my Miguel.

    • Aww, thanks. I think the personal experience is the most important part of a review.

      • Amorous Newbie

        I completely agree! Being relatable makes you credible and trustworthy. Thanks for your honesty on such a taboo subject.

  • Amorous Newbie

    Ive really enjoyed reading through some of your reviews, and appreciate your honesty in them. I can see eye to eye with you a lot of the time.
    I have little personal experience with sex toys. In fact ive only owned one (Human Touch Acuvibe wand), which wasnt a favorite with its big, bulky body, but it got the job done on the high setting. Last month it finally died after about five years of use, giving me an opportunity to explore new innovations.
    Ive discussed the We Vibe 4 with my husband, who has no reservations about trying it out. Being on a budget and in need of a much overdue orgasm (that I’m incapable of having without clitoral stimulation) I’m deciding between the We Vibe 4 and the We Vibe Touch. I plan on only using it with him, and would hate to waste $100+ on something that couldnt do the job. Ive read numerous great and disappointing reviews and would appreciate some advice from anyone.
    Thank you!

    • First, make sure to enter my giveaway of the We-Vibe 4


      For me (and many other reviewers) the We-Vibe Salsa is the best clit vibe out there. It has been discontinued but you can still find it sometimes. If you couldn’t find a Salsa, the We-Vibe Tango is virtually the same vibrator. Just the tip is shaped a little differently but the motor is the same.

      The Touch is a great clit vibe as well but it is different from the Salsa/Tango in that it’s silicone, which dampens the vibrations just a little. The silicone also produces a bit more drag on the skin than the plastic Salsa/Tango. Lube can easily fix this.

      I enjoyed the We-Vibe 4 but it’s nowhere near as good as my Salsa. You might look into it or the Tango.

      • Amorous Newbie

        Thanks for the reply. I will update you with my choice when I decide which I’ll get for Christmas. I wish I could have them all!
        I entered the contest! Hopefully, I will get my wish!

  • frisky hubby

    Thank you for the review. I am interested in trying the we vibe with my wife. She is also very small, so fit is my biggest question. I would have liked to read about the remote options. How would you compare it to other discrete remote toys when it comes to having a little fun on a date? And is it worth the $159?

    • “With the remote you can fine tune the steady vibration and the patterns by stepping through 10 levels of intensity.”
      “To turn it off you can either press and hold the button on the clitoral
      arm for a few seconds or press and hold the bottom button on the remote.”
      “It requires a CR2032 battery and one is included. The remote has a range of about 10 feet.”

      I can’t think of anything else to say about the remote. Is there something specific that you were wondering about?

      I haven’t tried any other discrete remote toys (except an egg vibe that sucked) to make a comparison but with the way the We-Vibe 4 fit me, I’d say I could wear it out and have it stay in place and I don’t think it would be too loud. So I think it would work if, for example, she wore it out to dinner and you operated the remote.

      Judging the worth of something is very subjective. It would really all depend on how much pleasure the two of you got from it and how important that pleasure is to the both of you. And I can’t answer those questions.

      Personally, I think it is worth the money based on what else is available on the market. If the price is too high for you then you might consider the We-Vibe 3 which has come down in price quite a bit with the release of the 4 but I can’t tell you anything about it as, I’ve not tried it.

      Also, if you’re worried about spending that amount of money and then not liking it, you could buy it from Lovehoney. They have the best return policy around. You can return any product for any reason within 100 days from the date of purchase. So try it and if it’s not for you, send it back and get a refund.

  • gonadsnstrife

    Yep, i’ll be getting one of these soon. Thank you for the meticulous reviews and insights.

  • Lametastic

    I recently got the We-Vibe 2 and it is awesome. But this one looks like they did a lot of troubleshooting, which is good. For instance a remote control makes so much more sense because the button on the We-Vibe 2 is kind of hard to get at while it is in use. Also I love the color of the 4.

  • teasoph

    After reading this review I actually went and bought the we-vibe 4 as a gift for my boyfriend, thankfully it was on sale, yay Valentines promotions, unfortunately I now have to have the patience to wait to see him next. I am looking forward to see if he enjoys it as much!

    • I’m do glad to hear that my review helped you to decide. I really hope you both enjoy it. I was surprised how well it worked for us. It’s not a bad idea to try it on your own first to get a feel for how it fits and how it works. Feel free to stop by after and tell me how it went.

  • futuremrsmjw

    I hate when you look for reviews on sex toys and you get an explanation of how it is charged, where it fits and just a simple, yes its good. Drives me nuts. I have bought hundreds of sex toys, but I am glad that some lovely sex shop worker pointed me towards these more ‘designer’ type toys like the Lelos & we vibes.

    I have been lusting after a we vibe for the last couple of years, and having been pregnant last year, I feel like now that my new born sleep dep is over, its time to get back on the horse haha. My body has changed so much and I believe this will work for me, I am going to be super disappointed if it doesn’t, but unlike you I think my clit will handle a little more standing still.

    Something noteworthy that the guy at the sex shop told me today is that if your g-spot is further back than your little finger, probably go for the we-vibe 3 cuz it has further reach, and also he said that if you’re vagina hasn’t snapped back to its former glory after birthing, then the we vibe 3 is better for the size thing.

    But anyway, hopefully I’ll be getting one of these puppies soon and i’ll let you know how we go. Thanks for the awesome review, definitely one of the better ones!

    I do find with sex toys that sometimes it takes quite a few goes at it to figure out how it works properly for you; I thought the lelo ina was a bunch of crap till I multiple orgasmed about 12 times last night *raised eyebrows*

    • Thanks for the compliment on my reviews. I try to include my personal experience along with the “boring” details. Good to know that it helps people to read about how I used the toy, etc.

      That’s good to know about the WV 3. I’ll have to file that away somewhere in my brain in case someone else needs to know.

      I really hope you enjoy whichever version you get. You are absolutely right that sometimes is takes practice to figure out how to best use a toy. I’ve encountered that myself.

  • edeneveef

    I would love to have the We-Vibe 4 after reading your review. and I’m sure my partner would be willing to trying it out.

  • paul koontz

    Just tried it unfortunately it kept shutting off after 3-5 minutes when inserted. Runs fine when left alone when not inserted? It’s fully charged. So anyone what is wrong? The remote would not work to turn it back on after that either? Wife said it needs to go deeper inside to reach the g spot.
    I played with the button on the we vibe 4 and it finally started to work again. Did I get a bad one?
    We’re going to change it again and try it latter. Hope I didn’t waste 170 bucks they charged me at the sex shop in down town Riverside California.

    • I’m not sure what could be going on but it is covered by a one year warranty and if you think it’s defective, you should contact We-Vibe.
      Here is the warranty information:

    • Dom

      I just tried my new We Vibe 4 for the first time after fully charging it – It stayed on for less than 5 minutes and then shut off also and I couldn’t turn it back on. I have put it back on charge and am waiting to see how long it takes to fully charge again and then if it repeats the same <5 minute performance.
      Paul – did your issue resolve or did you end up getting the device replaced?

  • Math

    I recently just got this toy. It works wonders for the lady for the clitoral stimulation but since she’s pretty tight, it was a tight squeeze for me to get in there. Just used it once so far so hopefully with a couple more tries, I can say that it did feel good just like dizzyguy thought.

  • Bruce Benjamin

    Oh thanks! we want one so bad but just had not heard much about it. Now its time to spend our tax money

    • Can’t stress it enough, if you’re unsure about this one, Lovehoney has the best returns policy around. And it is a lot of money so…

  • Joe

    We got ours a few days ago. Been playing around with it. Overall we are not impressed. It does not stay inside her and she said it was just “okay.” He could not really feel any vibes. We would not spend the money on this product again.

  • Mickey Bowman

    Just got we vibe 4 january 30th not even 2 weeks later i cant get it to charge

    • I’m sorry to hear that. Contact We-Vibe. You have a warranty on it.

  • Kate

    Sooo what happens if you’re impatient and don’t want to wait for it to completely charge initially… Mines been charging for a little over 2 hours… So I’m curious

  • The size & matte finish I think are the biggest differences here – the previous one was just so bulky and sticky that even lube had a hard time saving it.

  • Tam

    Got our we vibe 4 plus last week ….took it for its first test run last night .the vibes were good but it would not stay in place keeps sliding out